Posted on: 3 June 2018
Going through a divorce can be stressful enough with things are 100% amicable between both parties. However, things can become exponentially more stressful when disagreements over finances, property, assets, or child custody come into play. If you're going through a divorce and are struggling to reach an agreement with your soon-to-be ex, you may want to consider trying mediation before you let the courts decide. Through the use of divorce mediation, you may be able to reach an amicable agreement and avoid the added stress of a court-ordered decision.
1. Start With the Right Mediator
Successful divorce mediation begins with choosing the right mediator. In some cases, the courts may actually assign you a mediator -- in which case, you won't have much say in the matter. If you're able to select a mediator, however, this is ideal. By doing so, you'll be able to find a professional and experienced mediator who has some form of certification and training in basic or family mediation. Depending on which state you live in, this may not be a requirement for a person to sell their services as a mediator.
2. Consult With Your Lawyer
While having a lawyer is always recommended while going through a divorce (amicable or not), most people will agree that it's generally best to keep lawyers out of the actual mediation sessions themselves. By all means, however, you should still consult with your lawyer as you prepare for your mediation meeting, as he or she will be able to give you some useful advice and guidance.
3. Have All Documentation Ready to Go
Depending on the specific issue you're working through, you'll likely be asked to bring some important documentation to your mediation session. For example, if there is a dispute over what to do with the marital home, you may be asked to have a professional real estate appraisal done on your property. Make sure you have all requested documentation (such as bank statements, pension information, or other important documents) and bring copies of them with you on the day of your mediation session.
Overall, divorce mediation sessions can be a great way to reach an agreement over a divorce dispute rather than adding to the stress in court. Of course, both parties need to be well prepared if they want divorce mediation to be successful. By following these steps, you can prepare for your first session and be ready to reach a fair agreement.
For more information, contact a law office like Chesney & Nicholas LLP.Share